When you love a sex addict, regardless of the status of your relationship, you will be affected greatly by trauma or PTSD (Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder) if your partner has been sexually acting out during your relationship with him or her. Your feeling of being unsafe and fearful is ever present. For you to heal and recover your own sanity in the breakdown of your relationship, you need a healing process that treats the PTSD you’ve experienced, whether or not you cho0se to remain with your partner.
In my practice as a Couples Coach, with specializations in Sex Addiction recovery and Trauma Recovery I use the healing modalities of EMDR II (Eye-Movement Desensitization & Reprocessing) and EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) to help my clients heal their trauma. My sessions are available online via confidential, secure, encrypted video-conferencing. Local sessions at my office are available in Durango, Colorado & Pagosa Springs, Colorado.
As a psychotherapist, marriage counselor, marriage intimacy coach, sex addiction specialist and trauma specialist for the past 25 years I’ve helped men and women to heal and recover from sex addiction and their spouses or partners heal from the trauma they suffered as a result of the addicts sexual acting out, during their marriage or relationship. My professional journey in the treatment of sex addiction, partner trauma and the healing of marriages or relationships affected by sex addiction started with my training in sex addiction recovery with Pia Melody of the Meadows.
Traditional 12 Step models for partners of sex addicts have strong tendencies to blame the partner in some ways for the sexual acting out of their partners. The labels of ‘codependent’ or ‘co-addict’ placed on the partners of sex addicts imply there is joint responsibility for the sex addicts acting out behaviors. I and other more progressive therapists and coaches who work with the partners of sex addicts find these labels and ways of addressing the partners leave them feeling blamed for their partners bad sexual choices.
The 12 Step programs also don’t address the very real and painful trauma and resulting PTSD that results from their partner’s sexual acting out. Infidelity in a marriage or relationship always produces a traumatic experience for the injured partner. As I work with partners of sex addicts I find they desperately need validation for anguish of sexual betrayals they’ve suffered and the fear and lack of safety they are experiencing in the aftermath of these betrayals. Most 12 Step models rarely if ever acknowledge the partner’s trauma or PTSD.
If you’ve been betrayed through sexual infidelity in your marriage or relationship and find you are lacking support for your pain and trauma and need an professional expert to help you heal, please give me a call at 970-422-6102 for a Complimentary 15 Minute Phone Consultation to learn about how I can help you, your partner and your relationship to heal.