Sex Addiction & Porn Addiction Assessment | Littleton, Colorado | Denver, Colorado

Who Else Wants To Get Honest About Your Porn Addiction?

At some level, you know you’re out of control, but it’s hard to admit isn’t it? Find out here just how far out of control you really are with your pornography / sex addiction and what you can start doing about it today. When would now be a good time to begin?

For the past 25 years I’ve been helping people with sex addiction. My offices are located in Durango, Colorado and Colorado Springs, Colorado. I also provide sessions worldwide by phone and video. If you have questions about whether or not your sexual behavior is sex addiction or porn addiction, you will find this self-assessment helpful.

Please do yourself a big favor and be completely honest with your self-assessment. Without your honesty you will not get the help you desperately need.

Observable Characteristics Of Sexually Addictive Behaviors

  • You have a pattern of failures at resisting your sexual impulses to engage in specific sexual behaviors that are harmful to yourself and / or others and you are unable to change on your own.
  • You experience a persistent desire and are unsuccessful in efforts to control, reduce, or stop these sexual behaviors.
  • You typically spend inappropriately large amounts of time or resources obtaining sex with others, masturbation with pornography, or recovering from your sexual experiences.
  • You have a preoccupation with your sexual behaviors or activities in preparation of them.
  • You frequently engage in sexual behaviors even when you are expected to fulfill relational, social, academic, occupational, or domestic obligations to others.
  • You continue to engage in these sexual activities or behaviors despite knowing that you will have a recurring or persistent, financial, social, relational, physical, or psychological problem that is either caused by and / or made worse by your sexual behaviors.
  • You feel anxious, agitated, irritated, or restless when you cannot engage in your compulsive sexual behaviors or activities.
  • You frequently feel guilty or shameful after these acts, and fear being discovered.
  • You engage in these activities far longer than you intended.
  • Your addictive use of pornography prevents you from responding in a sexually normal way even to someone you are sexually attracted to (i.e. difficulty in getting and maintaining erections).

Sex Addiction / Porn Addiction Assessment

The Four Levels of Sex Addiction

Level I is being engaged in compulsive sexual activities either alone as in masturbation, with a partner, or in obsessive thoughts about these activities.

Level II includes promiscuous sex and / or affairs if you are married or in a committed relationship.

Level III includes acts of voyeurism, exhibitionism, and rubbing against people in public places. In other words, those activities to which the other person is not willingly participating and likely are against the law.

Level IV is when a person commits much more serious and intrusive sexual offenses, such as sexual molestation, incest or rape that have more harmful criminal consequences.

As with any addiction, sex addiction has several debilitating, negative consequences that affect addicts sexually, relationally, psychologically, and physiologically. For example, anyone who engages in non-monogamous, sexual activities has a far greater chance of acquiring sexually transmitted diseases such as AIDS. Female sex addicts also have higher incidences of unwanted pregnancy and cervical cancer. Sex addicts typically have recurring financial problems caused by their inability to control their expenditures associated with their addiction.

Social issues are problematic such as difficulty relating to friends and family primarily because of the shame that sex addiction creates, the subsequent need to hide the sexual activities, and the fear of being discovered. If you are married or in a serious relationship, you’ve also experienced difficulty with emotional and sexual intimacy between you and your partner because secrecy always compromises intimacy between two people. True intimacy requires openness, vulnerability, and safety. Remember if you’re not doing something wrong for you or your marriage or relationship, there’s no need to hide anything. Get the picture?

Rotary International has a Four Way Test of the things we say and do that make up a strong foundation for ethical behavior in relationships. I believe these questions answered honestly will direct one to right behavior for self and others, including a spouse or relationship partner.

I. Is it the TRUTH?
II. Is it FAIR to all concerned?
III. Will it build GOOD WILL and BETTER FRIENDSHIPS?
IV. Will it be BENEFICIAL to all concerned?

When you ask yourself these questions with regard to your sexual choices, how do your answers stack up?

Perhaps you are a Christian reading this article and find that your life choices don’t line up with the word of God. If so, there is no escaping the inner turmoil these choices will cause you. Even so, when you are suffering with an addiction that produces compulsive behavior it can be difficult to choose differently until you get the help you need to resolve the underlying problems producing that compulsive behavior.

II Corinthians 5: 14-17 states”. . . Since we believe that Christ died for all, we also believe that we have all died to our old life. He died for everyone so that those who receive his new life will no longer live for themselves. Instead, they will live for Christ, who died and was raised for them. So we have stopped evaluating others from a human point of view. At one time we thought of Christ merely from a human point of view. How differently we know him now! This means that anyone who belongs to Christ has become a new person. The old life is gone; a new life has begun!” (NLT)

You may be wondering how you come into alignment with Christ in your sexual behavior and become the new person He wants you to become. Professional help with a psychotherapist or mental health counselor who is trained in Sex Addiction Recovery and also addresses these spiritual issues is necessary for you to heal the underlying causes, and recover from sex addiction.

Therapy sessions with professional sex addiction counselors may either be done individually or in a group setting. In my private practice I use specific trauma therapies such as EMDR II, EFT and Clinical Hypnotherapy to heal the underlying causes of sex addiction in individual sessions, and refer clients to local 12 Step recovery groups for additional support.

Several organizations such as Celebrate Recovery – a Christian recovery group, Sex Addicts Anonymous, and Sexaholics Anonymous also provide programs and various support groups to assist those who have an addiction to change and correct compulsive sexual behaviors. While these support groups are helpful in recovery, they are not therapy to heal the underlying causes of sex addiction and until these issues are addressed for healing in therapy, the sex addiction will prove immovable. Certain prescription medications can also be useful in the treatment of co-occurring, psychological problems associated with sex addiction.

If you believe you have sexually addictive behaviors and feel ready to get the help you need, or if you are uncertain that you are dealing with sex addiction and want a professional assessment to determine if you need help, please call me at 970-422-6102 for your complimentary 15 minute phone consultation. You will be glad you did. God bless you on your journey.

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